Do you feel frustrated with an important relationship?
Taken for granted? Don’t know what else to try?
Want to fix the relationship but aren’t getting any cooperation?
What if I told you that YOU HAVE THE POWER
to change the relationship, on your own?
Listen to the free workshop on creating happier relationships when you are the only one trying:
Relationships are so important to us women. We often judge the quality of our life based on how good we feel about our relationships – with husbands/boyfriends, parents, children, siblings, and best friends.
If we are happy and content with each of those relationships, then our life is usually pretty fulfilling.
But so often, there is one or more close relationships in our life that cause us pain. We feel unappreciated. Misunderstood. Taken for granted.
We so badly want to feel heard, valued, and appreciated, and when we don’t, we often feel it physically as a pit in our stomach, a knot in our throat, or pressure on our chest.
Maybe you have had some of the following thoughts about one of your personal relationships
About your husband/boyfriend/partner:
- I’ve lost the connection we used to have.
- I feel lonely, even though we live together. It’s almost like we are roommates.
- I feel like I have to do everything myself.
- He doesn’t appreciate all that I do.
- I wish he would support me.
- I wish he showed me more love and affection.
- I don’t know how to reach him…he seems so distracted and distant.
OR about a child/parent/sibling:
- She/he doesn’t listen to me or value my advice.
- I feel like I’m walking on eggshells.
- She/he takes me for granted.
- She/he doesn’t respect what I have accomplished in my life or understand where I’m coming from.
- I have to hold our family together and play peacemaker all the time.
These thoughts probably make you SAD. Maybe even ANGRY, RESIGNED, RESENTFUL, and even a little GUILTY sometimes.
But what can be even worse is the frustration because you just KNOW it can and should be better, but you don’t know how to make that happen.
I am willing to bet you spend a lot of time and energy nurturing your relationships, but don’t feel like you are getting the results you want. You give, give, give but aren’t getting back what you need in the relationship.
Maybe you’ve tried counseling. Your book shelf is packed with self-help and relationship books. You’ve tried expressing your needs without blame. You’ve tried to be more patient. But either all this effort gets you nowhere, or it only helps a little bit.
YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE
if you have also thought:
- I know there is potential for a more satisfying relationship for both of us.
- I know we would both feel happier and more peaceful if only we could resolve our issues.
- I am yearning for a deeper connection, to be heard, to be understood, and appreciated for who I am in this relationship.
- I want to have a better level of understanding and mutual support.
You might feel like you are beating your head against the wall, wondering, HOW DO I MAKE THOSE LASTING CHANGES HAPPEN??? Especially if the other person isn’t willing or doesn’t recognize the need to make changes?
What is the SECRET???
In my work as a relationship coach and energy psychology practitioner, I have helped many women achieve great changes in their relationships by shifting the energy they bring to the relationship.
The books and counseling are helpful, and there are lot of great advice and strategies out there, but they don’t address the fundamental energy of the relationship.
By now, most of us understand the scientific concept of quantum physics and modern science that tells us we are all made up of energy, everything is. We are all packets of energy, interacting with each other.
A relationship is the interaction of two energy patterns, yours and theirs.
Most relationships are an unconscious reaction between the energies. The energy that both people give creates a specific result. Usually that energy is given on autopilot. When we try changing the words and the actions, we just don’t see the change we’d like.
But here’s the secret: when you start to change your own personal energy that you are contributing to the relationship, then you start to see a shift.
Our own personal energy has a TREMENDOUS effect on how we experience things. We’ve all experienced it on a small scale – when you are in a bad mood, angry, or frustrated, even something that you normally enjoy just isn’t as satisfying, you can’t enjoy it as much. You end up stubbing your toe, or catching all the red lights.
But when you are in a great mood, you can put up with just about anything that comes your way, sometimes even housework can be fun! And if you still do catch a red light, you don’t even care. So our own energy patterns really do affect how we experience the world.
So the overlooked SOLUTION is: If you can CHANGE THE ENERGY YOU ARE PUTTING INTO THE RELATIONSHIP, then you can change how you experience the relationship.
And even when they do things that used to frustrate you, you will find it doesn’t bother you as much.And a wonderful byproduct of that change is that the OTHER person will find themselves acting differently because the fuel, or energy, that you are supplying has changed.
But how do you CHANGE THE ENERGY? How do you get from where you are now to where you want to be???
You need to T.A.N.G.O. !!!
T.A.N.G.O. System for Happier Relationships™
Most relationship work you have done (and I bet you’ve done a good bit) focuses on changing the words and actions. This is the first system that is specifically designed to help you transform the energy you are sending into the relationship.
That helps you learn how to keep it calm, balanced, and peaceful so that the other person wants to join you in that feeling.
In the T.A.N.G.O. System for Happier Relationships™ 5 week teleseminar, you will learn how to combine the power of each step with meridian tapping (a simple system you will learn quickly) to help you change your own energy patterns, release the negative energies, emotions, and thoughts, and choose the positive instead.
Each week you will learn a new strategy to help you get you where you want to be in your relationship:
Step 1: TAKE the edge off
Learn a two-pronged approach to lowering the stress, anxiety, and negative emotions you have about the relationship and the other person’s behavior.
- Understand what part of their behavior bothers you most
- Realize why exactly their behavior is bothering you
- Learn how to use meridian tapping to reduce the intensity of your frustration/pain/anxiety
Step 2: ACCEPT responsibility
You are part of the relationship and no doubt you aren’t perfect – but are you giving the other person energetic permission to treat you in a non-acceptable way? Find out what that means and how to take back your power.
- Identify how you are helping keep blame, shame, and guilt in the middle of the relationship
- Understand why you need to unconditionally love yourself in order for them to treat you properly
- Learn to let go of your attachment to blaming yourself for enabling them
- Learn the specific phrases you need to use with meridian tapping to stop beating yourself up
Step 3: Define Your Needs
- Learn what you really want in your relationship – it may be different than what you think
- Identify what emotions you are trying to get
- Learn why providing them to yourself will actually make it easier for the other person to give them to you
Most of us focus on what we don’t want in a relationship. Do you know what you DO want? And do you know how to feel that way even when the other person seems to be making it difficult?
Step 4: Focus on the Good
You no doubt have numerous examples of how the other person makes you feel bad. But there are probably ways that you can interpret some of their actions to make you feel good instead. This step will take you through the process of finding a way to authentically and genuinely focus on the positive parts of the relationship.
- Find out how focusing on their faults gives you more of the same
- Learn how to identify what your resistance is to noticing their good
- Use tapping to reduce that resistance to make it easier to appreciate their good
Step 5: Offer Your Best
Regardless of the other persons faults and behavior, we owe it to ourselves to be our best self in every relationship. We will cover this topic in step 5 to learn how to give our best.
- Learn how being your best will help YOU more than anybody.
- Learn how being your best can help bring out the best in the other person.
- But he/she doesn’t deserve it! Use tapping to reduce your resistance to offering your best.
A couple years into our marriage, I felt like my husband and I were roommates. I remember lying in bed next to him thinking I feel lonely. I tried to talk to him a number of times and find out what was going on with him, and explain how I felt, but nothing worked. He would say everything was fine. It hurt me that he seemed to think this disinterest was acceptable. This went on for over a year and I felt resigned. I didn’t know what else to do. I decided to try working with Aimee and went through the TANGO process. I immediately felt more at peace with everything and I felt hopeful. Less than a month later, we got that connection back! I was so astounded when he asked me to go on a walk with him (something I used to love to do but we never did any more) and he reached down to hold my hand, something he hadn’t done since we were dating. I am so happy to have my husband back. I think every woman owes it to herself to at least try working on her relationship on the energetic level through the TANGO process. I am so glad I did. – Michelle R.
I worked on the relationship with my adult daughter that has caused me much pain and heartache for the last 12 years. After tapping through the TANGO steps, I am much less afraid and frustrated now and more open to seeing her strengths. I feel we have found a mutual respect as to how we want to be in each other’s lives. I am able to let go and Let God more easily and see her as capable. – DLS
I decided that the relationship with my brother was affecting me more than I wished and decided to go through the TANGO process with Aimee. I knew I was very resentful, angry, and frustrated with his selfishness and how he took me for granted, but even more so with how he treated our mother. As I worked through the steps, I began to let go of those feelings until I felt peaceful with his decisions and let those be his choices. Not long after the course, a situation came up where he should have called our mother. Usually he would have made excuses or not even acknowledged my suggestion to call her, but I think because of how the course helped me shift my energy, he called her that same night. I am grateful for this course because it helped not only me, but it has helped my mother without her knowing. – Margie, NJ
How much would it be worth to you to find some peace with this relationship?
After years of feeling unloved and worthless and dealing with depression because of numerous issues including my ex-husband’s abusive behavior, I joined the TANGO System for Happier Relationships course. The most amazing thing I learned was that I could actually choose to let go of those negative feelings, I never realized I had that option. The steps and the tapping technique Aimee uses helped me let go and instead begin to realize that I deserve self-love and that I can value myself. I’m going to be honest, it was not easy, and I did have to deal with some painful memories, but it was soooo worth it to feel this way. I just didn’t realize it was possible until I made the commitment to really work on myself. I am grateful for the process and the tapping technique that helped me to get to this much more hopeful, peaceful place.” -Debbie, Ohio
Even though my husband is kind and means well, he was nowhere near carrying his weight parenting. I had tried everything to get him to do more but that just caused stress and conflict. I felt resigned to the fact that I had to do everything and sacrifice my career so my children received the care they deserve. I applied all the manifesting techniques that worked with great success in other areas of my life, but I just couldn’t make any headway on my own with the family issue. After I worked with Aimee, almost miraculously, my husband began stepping up to the mark without my saying a thing! His relationship with the kids improved almost immediately and suddenly I had the freedom to pursue my career as well! I now have a new balance and a sense of freedom I didn’t have before. I was even able to go overseas alone for a week-long conference and leave the kids and dad to do it alone. Prior to working with Aimee this would have been impossible. It feels like someone has taken a set of chains off me. - Anna, Australia
My 19 year old daughter complained constantly to me about her on-going health issues, but stubbornly resented any of my ideas or advice. We bickered and argued a lot. I felt exhausted, discouraged, frustrated, and had a lot of muscle tension and sometimes a panicky feeling. After just the first week of the class, I noticed there was already less tension, less arguments. After the 2nd week, I noticed that my panic feeling was going away. When I did start to become upset, I could tap on it to get rid of the uncomfortable feelings and calm down. I also became aware of my patterns and could choose to respond differently, which helped us both. I am so relieved. The class helped me to focus on the issue in a consistent way, which I would not have done otherwise. – ESB Columbus, OH
Are you ready to stop just WISHING things were different in your relationship?
How many nights have you laid in bed WONDERING what you could do to make things better?
Have you RESIGNED yourself to this for the rest of your life?
Does it MAKE SENSE to try to change the relationship at the most basic level?
Is there a better INVESTMENT you can make in yourself?
YES, I want to TRANSFORM my Relationship
I participated in the TANGO course in order to work on my relationship with my Mom. Long story short: We are more like fair-weather friends than mother/daughter, and my biggest issue with her is her inability to admit when she is wrong. This made me resentful, discouraged and exasperated – with an intensity that regularly rated 9-10 on a 10 scale over the last 20 years. I really had no hope of things ever being better. But once I committed to the course materials and activities, I realized that the only way the relationship would change would be if I decided I wanted it to. With this realization came empowerment, hope, and excitement at the possibilities for not only my relationship with my Mom, but with other loved ones as well. Already, I have successfully cleared the most intense of my negative feelings, and have begun to transform my relationship with my Dad as a pleasantly surprising byproduct. I know there is more tapping and healing to be done, but participating in this course and learning the techniques gives me a tremendous advantage, and I am grateful for having been introduced to both the technique and Aimee.” – Megan A., Columbus, Ohio
“I worked with Aimee on a relationship with my boss. This woman had been a thorn in my side for 20 years, and recently had become my boss. I felt undervalued and unappreciated for all the hard work I did. I really feared losing my job because of this relationship. Aimee led me through the TANGO process and literally two days later, I had an amazing breakthrough with my boss. For the first time in 20 years, we actually understood each other. I was so amazed that I had to give her a hug. I just wish I had done this 20 years ago, because that was a lot of unnecessary stress and anxiety that could have been avoided.”
“During the TANGO course, I came to understand that my sister-in-law’s ingratitude and boorish behavior towards me and others is not personal but is based on her own issues and low self-esteem. I now feel more pity and understanding toward her instead of the anger and resentment I used to feel. My negative feelings and thoughts about her are mostly gone. Although she is still not my favorite person, after going through the TANGO process, I feel confident that when I do have to be around her that she will no longer push my buttons, and I can once again look forward to being with my family instead of just dreading her company. DK, Illinois
I was so impressed with this course! I was new to tapping and the workbook and tapping phrase generator really helped me identify exactly what I needed to do. It was thorough and purposeful. I feel much more accepting and appreciating of my colleague for who she is and what she has to offer now, and now she is more receptive to me. I also feel more calm and focused when she approaches me instead of suspicious and anxious like I used to be. Aimee’s explanations and guidance though the materials was so good, she used very good examples which really made the material stick. Aimee’s insight on Filters in the 4th class was one of my favorite parts of the course. I check for filters all the time with almost everyone I have a relationship with now. -CMager, California
I invite you to take this important step to begin to heal the relationships in your life.
P.S. I know deciding whether to invest in transforming your personal relationships is important to you. I believe that healthy relationships mean a healthy world. So it is important to me that you MAKE A DECISION about whether you want to invest your time and money to transform your relationships – BEFORE you go on to your next email, instead of making this one more thing you need to “think about.” Delaying decisions or continuing to “think” will keep you from what you deserve. So YES or NO, trust that and move forward. If YES, reserve your spot and know that you have made a huge step toward transforming your personal relationships and more fully enjoying your life!